Dear Bukky,
I'm reaching out from Aba, Abia state. I got married four
years ago and I and my wife got separated after seven
months of marriage.
To be sincere, most of the fault came from me. She was
pregnant at the time of our separation and that baby girl is
now three years old.
I later got married to another woman last year December and
she already has a son for me, too.
Early this year, I started having serious unrest in my spirit
telling me that I am going against God's plan for my life.
I met several pastors and they advised me to quit my second
marriage and go back to my first wife.
The last pastor I met told me that if I continue with my
second wife, things will not go well with me. He said that the
devil will have free access to my life.
Now I’m about to end my second marriage but my first wife
is not willing to come back to me.
I’m still begging her because she has not remarried but she
has a serious date.
I need your advice on what to do.
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Dear reader,
I find this a little confusing. So you are going to dump your
wife for no reason just to go back to your ex-wife who you
wrongly left few years back.
By your own admission, you messed up your first marriage
with the things you did wrong and this appears to me as a
repetition of your previous mistake. If your second wife has
done you no wrong, why are you even thinking of leaving her?
Secondly, your ex already has something great going for her.
Why are you trying to ruin it?
My man, this is a woman you left four years ago. If she has
finally found the courage to move on and someone who will
take her as a single mum, please don’t stand in her way.
You asked for my advice. I say leave that woman alone and
face your new marriage.
I would recommend you ask your first wife for forgiveness.
Apologise sincerely for all the things you know you did wrong.
And move on with your life.
But then again, it is a spiritual thing and I won’t be the one to
deviate you from your faith and what you believe in.
The ball is now squarely in your court, sir.
_____________________
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